If you are looking for some out-of-the box thinking, and maybe some fun surprises for Valentine’s Day date ideas, or running a bit behind for planning what to do with your love, then here are some great ideas from my friends at Bustle. I was just interviewed for this article on tips to explore some interesting ideas, in addition to or maybe ...read more
Sexual Desire Discrepancies and What To Do About It
Do you feel like your partner wants sex all the time? You hate to say “no” (again), but then, why should you be having sex if you don’t want to? Sexual desire discrepancy is when one partner wants sex more frequently yet the occurrence of actual intercourse doesn’t match the desire. “I’m sorry, honey, not tonight,” is a common area of ...read more
When to Stop Talking About Your Ex So You Can Move On
It's the beginning of a new year. You and your ex broke up late last year, and one of your New Year's resolutions was to get over them so that you could move on. The problem might be that moving on is turning out to be actually much harder than you thought it would be. Kimmy Foskett, a writer from Elite Daily, was doing an article on this very ...read more
The Wisdom & Art of Flirting
As a therapist, I see both singles looking for a relationship and couples trying to rekindle a spark. You know what both groups of people need more in their lives (and more practice at)??? Flirting. Flirting is to behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, oftentimes for amusement rather than with serious intentions...well, ...read more
What To Do If Your Partner Works Too Much
“It may not be another woman, but it sometimes feels like it.” Are there late night texts, phone calls that are “just a quick minute” during meals, and long late hours at the office? I’ve had a number of female clients through the years express their sadness, frustration and even loneliness because they felt their husbands and partners work too ...read more
Having A Baby – Part 4: 12 Tips To Enhance Your Relationship After Your Baby Is Born
You’re exhausted, you’re not having sex (that may be the last thing on a new mother’s mind) and emotions vacillate wildly. Is this the blissful time you were expecting? And what about you, new dad? How is your life changing now that you are a parent? What do you need? If you’re concerned that you’re not yourself or feeling that maybe you’re ...read more
How Important Is Chemistry?
In my practice, I am frequently asked this question by dating singles. The answer is simple…and not. For the vast majority of us, chemistry is important. This can be especially true at the beginning of a relationship. I remember when I was dating and how important it was for me to feel chemistry with whomever I was seeing at that time. ...read more
What Is Your Love Language?
Relationships can be hard. Sometimes it’s even a challenge to remember that you’re on the same team. You may only be seeing the things that drive you crazy. You know, those little things that get under your skin. Those things your partner may (or may not) be doing that you feel are driving you apart. You may find yourself asking, “What were the ...read more
Why Physical Touch Is So Important in Relationships
One of the many issues that my clients – and couples in particular – present with are related to the experience of touching and being touched. For a variety of reasons, it seems that we are losing touch (pardon the horrible pun!) with our desire for physical contact. What I am seeing is that electronic “connection” is actually replacing ...read more
How to Know You May Have Found “The One”
I love talking to people who are at the point in their relationships when they think they may have found “the one.” The glow of happiness and security is a wonderful thing to witness!I’ve had plenty of clients in my office over the course of the past 25+ years that have this glow, yet still wonder if he or she is truly IT. I’ve had plenty of ...read more
Recovering from an Affair: Learning How to Cope
You may be in a situation where you have suspected or recently discovered that your partner had an affair. If so, it is more than understandable that this can be a very painful and scary time. Given the circumstance, how could you not be having those feelings? It is certainly true that affairs can happen for a variety of reasons: loneliness, ...read more
Kissing is Good for Your Health!
Kissing is an integral part of our intimate relationships! Sometimes the art of kissing can sometimes fall by the wayside in the hustle and bustle of life. I call it an art because if I mention a few couples in the movies, you may remember one or more of these scenes... Johnny and Baby in Dirty Dancing on stage during the finale. “Nobody ...read more
7 Signs It May Be Time for a Divorce
First thing before we explore this topic. I want you to know that I am a big fan of marriage. So much so that I’ve been married to my wife for over 30 years. I don’t believe that you casually throw away a marriage just because you hit the inevitable speed bumps that even the best of marriages experience. Having said that, there are going to be ...read more
12 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic
Sometimes certain relationships are a challenge. It could be with your partner. A family member. A friend. Your boss. The problem is when this is more than just an occasional disagreement. That happens in the best of relationships. No. This is something quite different. All you know is that your relationship is so bad that you may find ...read more
Three Steps to Rebuilding Trust
What do problems with finances, parenting, and infidelity have in common? Two things. First, they can break a relationship, and second, they all have to do with trust.Each of these hot button areas for couples boils down to a sense of trust or lack thereof. Lack of trust, trust betrayed, and trust taken for granted can lead to the very worst ...read more