If you're a young adult, or even a not-so-young adult, talking to your parents about dating can stir up a range of emotions from frustration, to embarrassment to deep love and respect. And with the holidays afoot, there are plenty of opportunities for these conversations. Your parents are naturally curious about your life, and dating life in ...read more
The Wisdom & Art of Flirting
As a therapist, I see both singles looking for a relationship and couples trying to rekindle a spark. You know what both groups of people need more in their lives (and more practice at)??? Flirting. Flirting is to behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, oftentimes for amusement rather than with serious intentions...well, ...read more
Online Dating: The New Vocabulary and Tips for Success
We used to find dates by a chance encounter or set up by mutual friends. However, these days most dating begins digitally. There are over a dozen dating apps that allow you to you make a love connection from your phone in the age of Tinder. I have met some wonderful couples who started dating on these phone apps and dating sites, which is ...read more
How Important Is Chemistry?
In my practice, I am frequently asked this question by dating singles. The answer is simple…and not. For the vast majority of us, chemistry is important. This can be especially true at the beginning of a relationship. I remember when I was dating and how important it was for me to feel chemistry with whomever I was seeing at that time. ...read more
12 Signs That He or She Is Not “The One”
One of the struggles that bring single people the greatest pain is related to the confusion about whether their current boyfriend or girlfriend is “The One.” You can imagine what it might be like for the couple in the picture below as one, or both, of them, are wondering whether the other really is “the one” or not. There can be so much ...read more
Confused About Dating? 5 Tips to Making It Easier
The scenario plays out over and over. As soon as a date is set, whether is the first or third, the cycle starts. Nervousness. What do I wear? Is my favorite shirt clean? Will they be interested in my day? Will they be happy to see me or staring at their phone the whole time? Should I bring a gift? Oh God, what would I bring? Is the ...read more
How to Know You May Have Found “The One”
I love talking to people who are at the point in their relationships when they think they may have found “the one.” The glow of happiness and security is a wonderful thing to witness!I’ve had plenty of clients in my office over the course of the past 25+ years that have this glow, yet still wonder if he or she is truly IT. I’ve had plenty of ...read more
What It’s Like To Date When You Have Depression
My single clients often seek my advice about dating. Elite Media wanted to explore what it's like to date when you are feeling depressed. I was more than happy to be a contributor to their efforts... Dating is already very much an emotional minefield on a good day. But trying to navigate through the maze of emotions that is dating gets even ...read more
Kissing is Good for Your Health!
Kissing is an integral part of our intimate relationships! Sometimes the art of kissing can sometimes fall by the wayside in the hustle and bustle of life. I call it an art because if I mention a few couples in the movies, you may remember one or more of these scenes... Johnny and Baby in Dirty Dancing on stage during the finale. “Nobody ...read more
7 Reasons to Ask Him Out First
We’ve experienced a lot of changes to the modern dating world. We now have online dating through various websites and apps, attitudes and customs have shifted and grown, and thanks to social media, our lives are much more visible than we ever were before. And with all of these changes, many singles are understandably feeling an increased level of ...read more
The Brighter Side of Online Dating
In a time when a simple Google search will return hundreds of negative opinions about online and app dating sites, I’m here to give you a different perspective. While so many singles complain about apps like Tinder and joke about sites like FarmersOnly.com, online dating wouldn’t be a $2 Billion industry if those same people weren’t actively ...read more
How To Know If Someone Is A True Narcissist
Narcissism is one of those terms that get thrown around pretty easily. Whenever someone is confident on the verge of being cocky, or who is very driven to achieve, they can get called out as being narcissistic. The question then becomes, what DOES make someone a true narcissist? What behaviors do they display that are truly “red flags”? It ...read more
Are You Sexually Compatible?
One of the things I hear questions about from my single clients and couples clients has to do with sexual compatibility. Usually, something going on, or not going on, in the bedroom often triggers the conversation. If you are struggling with this, you don’t need to feel alone. Your concerns are certainly not unique and very familiar. It turns ...read more