It’s the new year and this is a time that I tend both reflect and look ahead. When thinking about friendships and seeing some people who are close to me struggling in this area, the idea of creating this post came to mind. I hope you find it helpful. This year my resolution is to experience more connection with others. And my intention is to ...read more
Why, How, and What to Look for In a Therapist
If you’re suffering from unresolved conflicts or need to get a handle on some reoccurring issues that just won’t go away, you may have come to the realization that you could benefit from seeking out a therapist to help you navigate the challenges you are facing. If you are not sure and are still wondering if therapy could work for you, that’s ...read more
The Wisdom of Crying
The issue of crying often comes up for many of my clients. So many feel a stigma associated with crying – even crying alone, crying with another, and especially crying in a public setting. Somehow there is the erring belief that the human act of crying implies that we are weak. I challenge this belief. It could not be more false. Crying is an ...read more
The More Important A-List That We All Need To Be Talking About
Now that Variety has reported on all the Oscar winners, and the after parties have ended, the rest of us need to get back to our regular lives. However, even though the Oscars are over, maybe there is something for us to learn from the idea of A-listers. I'm not talking about the Hollywood celebrities, but your own personal A-list… ...read more
Weinsteingate and Sexual Harassment: What Now?
It’s almost impossible to have missed the #MeToo conversations happening on social media last month. It came along with a myriad of allegations of sexual abuse from far too many women and the abuse of power of Harvey Weinstein, movie mogul. Now, this past week allegations have been made against Kevin Spacey, from an actor about inappropriate sexual ...read more
Not Sleeping Well? 12 Tips to Get Better Zzzz’s
In a few days, our clocks are going to change, and although most of us are going to “gain an hour” of sleep, there is still going to be some disruption to our sleep routines when we set our phones, clocks, and other devices back one hour. This seems to be a good time to explore sleep in general, and just how vitally important good quality sleep ...read more
What To Do When Politics Are Wrecking Your Life
Recently Women's Health approached me and other therapists to contribute to an article they wanted to do on a very hot topic: love and politics! If ever you find yourself in a sticky situation where you love and appreciate the relationship that you have with someone but really dislike their politics and the conversations that go with them, you ...read more
Navigating Difficult Times: 7 Practical Tips to Help You Cope [updated]
What’s happening? Recent violent events in the news have caused concern for almost everyone I know, and certainly myself. We live in difficult times and events locally, nationally, and internationally seem to be occurring with increasing regularity. So many of us are feeling the impact. Within the last two months alone, ...read more
How to Apologize Well and Repair a Relationship
People are sorry all over the place. Some apologies are demanded. Some are expected. Some are politically played. There’s a new celebrity apology every month and some get it right and some may never recover. There are angry and flippant apologies, “I’m sorry, Ok?!?!” There are fauxpologies, “I’m sorry that you feel that way.” There ...read more
Are Happy Relationships the Fountain of Youth? A 75-Year Harvard Study Has the Answer
I have long, LONG been a supporter, cheerleader, proponent, rabble-rouser, whichever term you’d like to use, of the idea of authentic, high-quality, deep relationships. I believe it’s critical to have certain people in your life you can be truly open and emotionally intimate with; those who you feel fully secure with. Whether it’s your partner, ...read more
7 Reasons to Ask Him Out First
We’ve experienced a lot of changes to the modern dating world. We now have online dating through various websites and apps, attitudes and customs have shifted and grown, and thanks to social media, our lives are much more visible than we ever were before. And with all of these changes, many singles are understandably feeling an increased level of ...read more
The Brighter Side of Online Dating
In a time when a simple Google search will return hundreds of negative opinions about online and app dating sites, I’m here to give you a different perspective. While so many singles complain about apps like Tinder and joke about sites like FarmersOnly.com, online dating wouldn’t be a $2 Billion industry if those same people weren’t actively ...read more
Would You Like A Simple Way To Connect More With Others? Read On.
Connecting to others - really connecting in a way that is more than just on the surface is becoming an increasing challenge for so many of us. This is, particularly in today’s busy world. You would think that it would be easier. We have so many new technological means and devices to help us “connect,” but increasingly myself, and others I ...read more
11 Tips To Help You Recover From A Breakup
Previously, I’ve talked about how to know if it’s time to break up and also offered some tips on how to make a break up easier if it has come to that. Now, I think it’s time to talk about how to move on after a break-up. Over the years, I’ve had many clients who have gone through break-ups and there is always a common theme: heal me, take away ...read more
How To Know If Someone Is A True Narcissist
Narcissism is one of those terms that get thrown around pretty easily. Whenever someone is confident on the verge of being cocky, or who is very driven to achieve, they can get called out as being narcissistic. The question then becomes, what DOES make someone a true narcissist? What behaviors do they display that are truly “red flags”? It ...read more