Most of us have been there. We are in a relationship that we know isn't good for us, but for any number of reasons, we stay anyway. It is painful to stay. It can also be painful to think about leaving. All of this can be pretty confusing. Wanting some tips for her readers on how to get over a relationship that is not a ...read more
How to Know If You’re in Love with Your Best Friend
You spend a lot of time together, you laugh a lot, you have inside jokes and shared stories. You seem to balance each other and have great conversations and chemistry. Lately when you’ve been together things may have been affectionate and it’s getting you thinking. It could make sense that you and your best friend may want to ...read more
17 Tips to Help Reduce Anxiety and Panic Attacks
People seek me out for many reasons. Anxiety is one of the top three reasons, alongside depression, and relationship issues. In fact, at any given point in time, at least 20 percent of people are suffering from some type of anxiety. What is anxiety? Anxiety is actually a very normal, but unpleasant reaction to one or more situations ...read more
How To Fast Track Your Resolutions This Year
Many of us make resolutions and set goals at the beginning of the year. Actually, you may or may not have written them down. I recommend that you do. So, what’s next? What do you do with them for the rest of the year? How often do you revisit those goals that you were so excited about in January, but might have faded by the time you get to ...read more
5 Reasons to Make Friends a Higher Priority This Year
It’s the new year and this is a time that I tend both reflect and look ahead. When thinking about friendships and seeing some people who are close to me struggling in this area, the idea of creating this post came to mind. I hope you find it helpful. This year my resolution is to experience more connection with others. And my intention is to ...read more
When to Stop Talking About Your Ex So You Can Move On
It's the beginning of a new year. You and your ex broke up late last year, and one of your New Year's resolutions was to get over them so that you could move on. The problem might be that moving on is turning out to be actually much harder than you thought it would be. Kimmy Foskett, a writer from Elite Daily, was doing an article on this very ...read more
New Year’s Resolutions and Goals: What’s the Difference & the Secrets to Make Them Actually Work
Welcome to 2018! So, I was up last night after everyone else had gone to bed. My thoughts were focusing on what message I wanted the first blog of the year to be. I wanted it to be meaningful for you and not a repetition of the usual New Year’s “resolutions." And that got me to thinking about the different meanings of that word – resolutions ...read more
4 Tips to Help You Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety
It’s the holiday season. For many, it’s a time when we may be spending more time with family, friends, and fellow workers at any number of social gatherings. For some, this is a time of excitement, but for others, the holidays can be a time when we just might prefer to avoid holiday parties. Don’t worry. If that’s you, you’re not alone. And in ...read more
How to Ask Your Parents About Dating Advice
If you're a young adult, or even a not-so-young adult, talking to your parents about dating can stir up a range of emotions from frustration, to embarrassment to deep love and respect. And with the holidays afoot, there are plenty of opportunities for these conversations. Your parents are naturally curious about your life, and dating life in ...read more
The Wisdom & Art of Flirting
As a therapist, I see both singles looking for a relationship and couples trying to rekindle a spark. You know what both groups of people need more in their lives (and more practice at)??? Flirting. Flirting is to behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, oftentimes for amusement rather than with serious intentions...well, ...read more
Coping With The Holiday Season When You’re Feeling Down
Holiday parties every weekend, traveling long distances, preparing for Thanksgiving. Christmas lists from the kids to Santa, Hanukkah presents for eight nights, extra time with extended family. Colder, winter weather (well, as cold as it can get in Southern California!) and endless sweet treats when we’re trying to follow a healthier eating ...read more
Online Dating: The New Vocabulary and Tips for Success
We used to find dates by a chance encounter or set up by mutual friends. However, these days most dating begins digitally. There are over a dozen dating apps that allow you to you make a love connection from your phone in the age of Tinder. I have met some wonderful couples who started dating on these phone apps and dating sites, which is ...read more
Weinsteingate and Sexual Harassment: What Now?
It’s almost impossible to have missed the #MeToo conversations happening on social media last month. It came along with a myriad of allegations of sexual abuse from far too many women and the abuse of power of Harvey Weinstein, movie mogul. Now, this past week allegations have been made against Kevin Spacey, from an actor about inappropriate sexual ...read more
Not Sleeping Well? 12 Tips to Get Better Zzzz’s
In a few days, our clocks are going to change, and although most of us are going to “gain an hour” of sleep, there is still going to be some disruption to our sleep routines when we set our phones, clocks, and other devices back one hour. This seems to be a good time to explore sleep in general, and just how vitally important good quality sleep ...read more
Anxiety in the Age of Social Media: What to Do for You & Your Family
Is social media ruining our relationships and causing anxiety and depression in our teens and tweens? My wife and I were lucky enough to raise our three children before the age of social media, but the studies I’m reading on the negative and dangerous effects that social media is having on the development of children’s and teenagers social ...read more