Theodore Roosevelt once said that comparison was the thief of joy. If you are the kind of person that compares your relationship with friends, family, and social media strangers, you'll want to take a look at this. You’ll find some very common things that so many great relationships have in common. I was recently interviewed by Elite ...read more
Give Your Relationship a Fighting Chance: 23 Tips to Fight Fair and Effectively
It goes without saying that even in the best of relationships, that there are going to be the inevitable conflicts. This is perfectly normal and natural. Sometimes our disagreements with each other can escalate into arguments, and we experience intense hurt, scared, and angry thoughts and emotions. When discussions turn into full-on ...read more
Navigating Fertility: 9 Practical Tips to Help You Cope
Navigating the emotional issues that naturally occur during your fertility journey is not always an easy path – as an individual and as a couple. And you are definitely not alone, although it may feel that way at times. Fertility issues impact 1 in 8 families in America. The stress can be enormous. Not just the societal pressure to have a family ...read more
When to Stop Talking About Your Ex So You Can Move On
It's the beginning of a new year. You and your ex broke up late last year, and one of your New Year's resolutions was to get over them so that you could move on. The problem might be that moving on is turning out to be actually much harder than you thought it would be. Kimmy Foskett, a writer from Elite Daily, was doing an article on this very ...read more
What To Do When Politics Are Wrecking Your Life
Recently Women's Health approached me and other therapists to contribute to an article they wanted to do on a very hot topic: love and politics! If ever you find yourself in a sticky situation where you love and appreciate the relationship that you have with someone but really dislike their politics and the conversations that go with them, you ...read more
What To Do If Your Partner Works Too Much
“It may not be another woman, but it sometimes feels like it.” Are there late night texts, phone calls that are “just a quick minute” during meals, and long late hours at the office? I’ve had a number of female clients through the years express their sadness, frustration and even loneliness because they felt their husbands and partners ...read more
Having A Baby – Part 4: 12 Tips To Enhance Your Relationship After Your Baby Is Born
You’re exhausted, you’re not having sex (that may be the last thing on a new mother’s mind) and emotions vacillate wildly. Is this the blissful time you were expecting? And what about you, new dad? How is your life changing now that you are a parent? What do you need? If you’re concerned that you’re not yourself or feeling that maybe you’re ...read more
How Important Is Chemistry?
In my practice, I am frequently asked this question by dating singles. The answer is simple…and not. For the vast majority of us, chemistry is important. This can be especially true at the beginning of a relationship. I remember when I was dating and how important it was for me to feel chemistry with whomever I was seeing at that time. ...read more
What Is Your Love Language?
Relationships can be hard. Sometimes it’s even a challenge to remember that you’re on the same team. You may only be seeing the things that drive you crazy. You know, those little things that get under your skin. Those things your partner may (or may not) be doing that you feel are driving you apart. You may find yourself asking, “What were the ...read more
Why Physical Touch Is So Important in Relationships
One of the many issues that my clients – and couples in particular – present with are related to the experience of touching and being touched. For a variety of reasons, it seems that we are losing touch (pardon the horrible pun!) with our desire for physical contact. What I am seeing is that electronic “connection” is actually replacing ...read more
12 Signs That He or She Is Not “The One”
One of the struggles that bring single people the greatest pain is related to the confusion about whether their current boyfriend or girlfriend is “The One.” You can imagine what it might be like for the couple in the picture below as one, or both, of them, are wondering whether the other really is “the one” or not. There can be so much ...read more
Confused About Dating? 5 Tips to Making It Easier
The scenario plays out over and over. As soon as a date is set, whether is the first or third, the cycle starts. Nervousness. What do I wear? Is my favorite shirt clean? Will they be interested in my day? Will they be happy to see me or staring at their phone the whole time? Should I bring a gift? Oh God, what would I bring? Is the ...read more
How to Know You May Have Found “The One”
I love talking to people who are at the point in their relationships when they think they may have found “the one.” The glow of happiness and security is a wonderful thing to witness!I’ve had plenty of clients in my office over the course of the past 25+ years that have this glow, yet still wonder if he or she is truly IT. I’ve had plenty of ...read more
Are Happy Relationships the Fountain of Youth? A 75-Year Harvard Study Has the Answer
I have long, LONG been a supporter, cheerleader, proponent, rabble-rouser, whichever term you’d like to use, of the idea of authentic, high-quality, deep relationships. I believe it’s critical to have certain people in your life you can be truly open and emotionally intimate with; those who you feel fully secure with. Whether it’s your partner, ...read more
Recovering from an Affair: Learning How to Cope
You may be in a situation where you have suspected or recently discovered that your partner had an affair. If so, it is more than understandable that this can be a very painful and scary time. Given the circumstance, how could you not be having those feelings? It is certainly true that affairs can happen for a variety of reasons: loneliness, ...read more