One of the struggles that bring single people the greatest pain is related to the confusion about whether their current boyfriend or girlfriend is “The One.” You can imagine what it might be like for the couple in the picture below as one, or both, of them, are wondering whether the other really is “the one” or not. There can be so much ...read more
Confused About Dating? 5 Tips to Making It Easier
The scenario plays out over and over. As soon as a date is set, whether is the first or third, the cycle starts. Nervousness. What do I wear? Is my favorite shirt clean? Will they be interested in my day? Will they be happy to see me or staring at their phone the whole time? Should I bring a gift? Oh God, what would I bring? Is the ...read more
How to Know You May Have Found “The One”
I love talking to people who are at the point in their relationships when they think they may have found “the one.” The glow of happiness and security is a wonderful thing to witness!I’ve had plenty of clients in my office over the course of the past 25+ years that have this glow, yet still wonder if he or she is truly IT. I’ve had plenty of ...read more
Are Happy Relationships the Fountain of Youth? A 75-Year Harvard Study Has the Answer
I have long, LONG been a supporter, cheerleader, proponent, rabble-rouser, whichever term you’d like to use, of the idea of authentic, high-quality, deep relationships. I believe it’s critical to have certain people in your life you can be truly open and emotionally intimate with; those who you feel fully secure with. Whether it’s your partner, ...read more
Recovering from an Affair: Learning How to Cope
You may be in a situation where you have suspected or recently discovered that your partner had an affair. If so, it is more than understandable that this can be a very painful and scary time. Given the circumstance, how could you not be having those feelings? It is certainly true that affairs can happen for a variety of reasons: loneliness, ...read more
Kissing is Good for Your Health!
Kissing is an integral part of our intimate relationships! Sometimes the art of kissing can sometimes fall by the wayside in the hustle and bustle of life. I call it an art because if I mention a few couples in the movies, you may remember one or more of these scenes... Johnny and Baby in Dirty Dancing on stage during the finale. “Nobody ...read more
7 Reasons to Ask Him Out First
We’ve experienced a lot of changes to the modern dating world. We now have online dating through various websites and apps, attitudes and customs have shifted and grown, and thanks to social media, our lives are much more visible than we ever were before. And with all of these changes, many singles are understandably feeling an increased level of ...read more
7 Signs It May Be Time for a Divorce
First thing before we explore this topic. I want you to know that I am a big fan of marriage. So much so that I’ve been married to my wife for over 30 years. I don’t believe that you casually throw away a marriage just because you hit the inevitable speed bumps that even the best of marriages experience. Having said that, there are going to be ...read more
12 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic
Sometimes certain relationships are a challenge. It could be with your partner. A family member. A friend. Your boss. The problem is when this is more than just an occasional disagreement. That happens in the best of relationships. No. This is something quite different. All you know is that your relationship is so bad that you may find ...read more
Three Steps to Rebuilding Trust
What do problems with finances, parenting, and infidelity have in common? Two things. First, they can break a relationship, and second, they all have to do with trust.Each of these hot button areas for couples boils down to a sense of trust or lack thereof. Lack of trust, trust betrayed, and trust taken for granted can lead to the very worst ...read more
The Brighter Side of Online Dating
In a time when a simple Google search will return hundreds of negative opinions about online and app dating sites, I’m here to give you a different perspective. While so many singles complain about apps like Tinder and joke about sites like FarmersOnly.com, online dating wouldn’t be a $2 Billion industry if those same people weren’t actively ...read more
5 Reasons to Attend Pre-Marital Counseling
It’s no secret that divorce is running rampant in the US today; in fact, it’s no longer taboo to divorce and remarry more than once. When you find out so-and-so is on their 3rd marriage, perhaps you make a quick joke, but it doesn’t really phase most people anymore. Where did this start? Why is this suddenly a non-issue? How did we become so ...read more
11 Tips To Help You Recover From A Breakup
Previously, I’ve talked about how to know if it’s time to break up and also offered some tips on how to make a break up easier if it has come to that. Now, I think it’s time to talk about how to move on after a break-up. Over the years, I’ve had many clients who have gone through break-ups and there is always a common theme: heal me, take away ...read more
12 Tips For An Easier Break Up
I was getting a cup of coffee the other morning at my local coffee hub, and as I was waiting in line I noticed a couple sitting at a table nearby. It was obvious to everyone that they were having a heated conversation! The young lady’s voice was steadily rising and becoming more shrill. Tears were forming in her eyes, very close to ...read more
How to Know If It’s Time To Break Up – QUIZ
How many of these warning signs apply to you right now? Here is a quick quiz to help you see. Directions: >> Click here to go ahead and print this out. << Then circle the number for each item. By circling the number of each item that applies to your situation, you are saying that the statement is “True”. By not circling the ...read more